One reason multisexual people who are not bisexual may choose identify as “bisexual” is because it’s the most convenient and/or the only available identity to use. For example, because I have no other option, I am listed as “bisexual” on several social-networking websites, although I identify very strongly as pansexual. Also, I occasionally tell people that I am “bi” (or, more often, I respond along the lines of “yeah, sorta” to their inquiry). In these situations, I walk a fine line between self-preservation and cisgenderism. On one hand, I don’t feel comfortable talking about the details of my identity with people who are unlikely to understand anything beyond gay, straight, or bi, especially when I am with people who are uninformed about queer issues, and may already intentionally or unintentionally be projecting heterosexist attitudes and assumptions onto me. Other times, I worry that the people I am speaking to may be intentionally or unintentionally cissexist and/or cisgenederist, and thus they might make assumptions about myself and my partners when I explain that I am attracted to people other than men and women; specifically, I worry that they may not understand the concept of identifying as a gender other than man and woman, and may instead misinterpret me as third-gendering binary trans individuals (especially since I’ve had binary-gendered trans partners). Other people just want to be understood: explaining non-binary gender identities and sexualities other than gay, straight, or bi can be excruciatingly difficult in an uninformed hetero-, cis-, and binary-normative culture, and it is unfair to posit any queer individual as responsible for educating non-queer people about queer issues. On the other hand, I fear that by telling others that I am bisexual rather than explaining the existence of non-binary genders, I am contributing to the erasure of people with non-binary genders in our society. Conveniently identifying as bisexual is a binary-gender privilege, and it’s easy for someone who identifies fully or primarily as man or woman, but impossible for a non-binary person to do without erasing their own existence.
When I want to know what misogyny is, I don’t ask a man. When I want to know what racism is, I don’t ask a white person. When I want to know what homophobia is, I don’t ask a heterosexual. When I want to know what transphobia is, I don’t ask a cisgender person. When I want to know what ableism is, I don’t ask an able-bodied person. The contours and definitions of oppression are best articulated by the oppressed.
WARNING FOR TRANSMISOGYNY, CISSEXISM
Chloe Sevigny in Interview on her upcoming role as a transgender character:
I tried to lose a lot of weight because I thought it would make me look more masculine if I were gaunt. I had to do a lot of nudity as well, so I figured if I were less curvy, that would help. I was working out a lot because my character does a lot of physical stuff as an assassin. When I got to Manchester, where we were filming, I had rehearsals with the director and writer. I wanted to play the role with this exaggerated feminine behavior that a lot of transgender male-to-females have. It’s like a learned femininity. It’s very girly. But they didn’t want that. I thought, Well, how are you going to know? How can we remind the audience who I am? So on the show there are a lot of quick glimpses of me naked, wearing a prosthetic penis, which was horrifying. But I tried to get some of my own ideas in there. We did all of these different walks. I literally spent hours just sitting and moving my hands and walking to prepare.
Not everyone who is trans does these things. Trans* is not monolithic. We are legion;)
Trans women come from all walks of life and present ourselves in many different ways. Some of us present as very feminine and some of us present as very butch. Most of us fall somewhere in between.
This one does not appreciate being parodied in any way, even unintentionally by “well meaning” cis folk.
I don’t even know who Chloe Sevigny is, but telegantmess assures me that I have seen her in movies before.
The kicker is that I initially assumed that she was playing a trans man and I though she was wearing a binder.
Seriously, can we have a trans person playing a trans person in a major motion picture release.
I don’t even know where to start with how wrong this is.
Bold is mine.
No words for the amount of headdesk and facepalm this induces.
So… she tried to make herself look more masculine… to play a feminine character?
Yeah. Hollywood, don’t do that.
WHAT THE? Hang on, I’m very confused. She’s playing a trans woman? That’s not a binder? Prosthetic penis? Does anyone working on this have the slightest clue?
this is fucking weird. And disturbing
reblogged for trainwrecks.
Umm… yeah… fuck you Chloe.
AUUUUGH. Someone please take the toys away from the cis ppl. >.<
GO AWAY. STOP IT.
JUMP OFF A BRIDGE
OOH GOOD GOD
What’s even more disappointing is she was in Boys Don’t Cry, as Lana Tisdel. I just … if she decides to keep on taking roles in movies about trans* characters one would think she’d know more about the trans* community and the people in it. O.o